When my son was still a baby, every time I would change his diapers and his penis was still erect, I could detect a downward curve. I began to ask family members and they all told me that was normal and when he grew up everything would be fine.
But I was very uneasy something was very wrong. How could the penis be curved from the middle and turning down. I began to look up some urologists and none of them seemed able to understand what I was saying, that my son’s penis was curved when erect. It seemed like
I was the only person to see that moment when changing his diapers. I heard from several doctors that it was phimosis, frenum, when he grew up, everything would be fine.
Well, my son began to grow, and every time I saw him with an erection, there it was, crooked and facing down. I spoke to several mothers, and they all said their sons’ were the same; everything was fine.
That was when I accidentally saw a report on Dr. Paulo on TV, and I was certain my son had serious penile curvature, and if not corrected, he would become an adult with serious emotional, sexual and affective problems.
That is when I realized that many people ignore the existence of such problems. It’s not that the mothers don’t pay attention, they just don’t know. I also found out the media has serious problems in speaking of penile curvature on TV, which is why most people are unaware of the problem.
After childhood, and already entering adolescence, the boy does not seek help because he is timid. He isolates himself. His first girlfriend, first sexual relation are taboos. Standing naked in front of friends in boys' locker rooms is to be avoided, not to mention the enormous emotional problems they will have.
I keep asking myself why and from where this counter culture came from? When our girls begin adolescence we run with them to the gynecologist, so why don’t we take our boys to the urologist?
We as women, mothers, are responsible for our sons’ health, for their emotional health, their affective health, their sexual health. We want our sons to be happy in every sense.
And so this is my testimony and my appeal to all mothers. Look up a urologist. The only thing it will cost is a little bit of our time as a mother, which I know is very short. A very simple and quick surgery can avoid so much suffering and disaffection for our sons. Today, my son is 11 years old. He has no idea of the severity of the problem he once had, and maybe never will, because he never had any trauma. He will grow up happy like all the other boys.
A big kiss to you Dr. Paulo Egydio, who talked so patiently to me, explained so many doubts and treated my son with so much care.
Rosana
March 2008 |